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Magick Music Monday: Christina Aguilera

February/1/2010

As we edge closer to Valentine’s Day, I am overwhelmed by marketing campaigns about love.  Everywhere I go, I see ads for chocolates, diamonds, flowers, restaurants reminding me to make early reservations, and boutiques displaying dresses for that special night.  Friends of mine are getting ready to celebrate the evening with their special someone and getting excited about it, even amidst the anti-Valentine’s propaganda from those who are just down on love, not dating, or not inclined to celebrate love at the wave of the consumer checkered flag. 

I thought about what I would want to tell my daughter about Valentine’s Day, what lesson of Love I would want her to internalize that would rise above chocolates and kisses and Bah, Humbug! every February.  And really, it comes down to what Christina Aguilera is singing in Beautiful. 

Make friends with the person in the mirror.  Love yourself no matter what.  And never let the world, a lover, or the lack of a lover determine your self-worth.  Watch the video — it’s powerful. 

LYRICS:

Every day is so wonderful
And suddenly, i saw debris
Now and then, I get insecure
From all the pain, I’m so ashamed

I am beautiful no matter what they say
Words can’t bring me down
I am beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can’t bring me down
So don’t you bring me down today

To all your friends, you’re delirious
So consumed in all your doom
Trying hard to fill the emptiness
The piece is gone left the puzzle undone
That’s the way it is

You are beautiful no matter what they say
Words can’t bring you down
You are beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can’t bring you down
Don’t you bring me down today…

No matter what we do
(no matter what we do)
No matter what they say
(no matter what they say)
When the sun is shining through
Then the clouds won’t stay

And everywhere we go
(everywhere we go)
The sun won’t always shine
(sun won’t always shine)
But tomorrow will find a way
All the other times

’cause we are beautiful no matter what they say
Yes, words won’t bring us down, oh no
We are beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can’t bring us down
Don’t you bring me down today

Don’t you bring me down today
Don’t you bring me down today

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  • Avren | Reply

    Wednesday, 3rd February 2010 at 7:28 PM
     

    I had a convo with my sister about this today. She is single and I am newly single. This holiday could be living hell or it can be celebrated in our own way. I thought this video was very moving and it is so true. I told her I plan on honoring V-Day as a day dedicated to cherishing others and ourselves. I do not need to feel sad because I am now without a partner, I will be joyful because I have so many to cherish and who cherish me. It is our day and I’ll be there to celebrate it with them.

     

    • Sitara Haye (sitarahaye.com) | Reply

      Thursday, 4th February 2010 at 10:14 AM
       

      Do be joyful! I have been single for going on four years now — that’s single as in “not married, not dating, no boyfriend, no sex”. It has been one of the most wonderful periods of my life! There is nothing in the world that is worth as much as learning to love and be comfortable with yourself. Too many people put their happiness in the hands of other people, waiting for someone to make them happy, or believing that “when I find the one, I’ll be happy”. But the truth is, in order to find The One, you first have to *be* The One — to yourself!

      You have so many things to celebrate — your health, your friends, your hobbies, your wisdom, your chance for creating a great future each and every day! Love is not a thing to be collected, but a state to be shared. *BE* love this Valentine’s Day. Allow yourself permission to be happy for all those who are in relationships, but also give yourself permission to be happy WITHOUT a relationship. It is the biggest, most marketed lie that we must be mated to be happy. It’s the other way around…

      We must be happy to be mated. True mating is done between equals, self-possessed and self-honoring. Anything less than that is a state of co-dependency in which two people wait for the other to fulfill them.

      I hope you and your sister have a glorious Valentine’s Day. I know I’m sending Valentine’s to all my friends! Might make cookies, too!

       

  • Avren | Reply

    Thursday, 4th February 2010 at 10:15 PM
     

    Thank you Sitara! I’ve decided that this is true, I must find the true me. Not me plus someone, but just me. Happy V-Day!

     

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